Love For Sale
Oh sure, sisters do all the things physically to prepare for love. The hair is flawless and the clothes are the latest and greatest in fashion, but how much work has gone into the internal gifts that we are to offer our brothers? You attract what you are and a lot of Black women have become bitter, resentful and unpleasant. I know that brother didnâ€™t do right by some of you, but itâ€™s time to let that go and truly move on. How will love find you sisters? Will it recognize you?
Love, although, sometimes complicated, really is easy. But the demands and restrictions that we place on love make it less than pleasurable at times. Women grow up dreaming about love; looking for that knight in shining armor. Often this fosters an unrealistic view of what love really is.
Love isnâ€™t about the movie and the happy ending. Love is about not being selfish, but being patient and gentle. I mean the type of love that has longevity. How does one achieve this? I believe in some sense, sisters have minimized the power of love and what it truly means to embrace it. Love shouldnâ€™t be contingent on size, girth or width. It certainly doesnâ€™t depend on how many zeroâ€™s are at the end of his salary, or how fat his bank account is, either. Love has gotten mixed up in all this â€œstuff.â€? Iâ€™ll tell you that I, myself, have muddied the waters of love, a time or two, with stipulations.
Oh sure, sisters do all the things physically to prepare for love. The hair is flawless and the clothes are the latest and greatest in fashion, but how much work has gone into the internal gifts that we are to offer our brothers? You attract what you are and a lot of Black women have become bitter, resentful and unpleasant. I know that brother didnâ€™t do right by some of you, but itâ€™s time to let that go and truly move on. How will love find you sisters? Will it recognize you? More importantly, how will anyone have the wherewithal to penetrate the invisible wall you have built? Weâ€™ve all been hurt and suffered great losses, but in order for love to grow and flourish it is imperative for you to fertilize the ground on which it can grow upon.
Sisters, we say men are unworthy of us. We say that men donâ€™t know how to treat us, when in fact a lot of the issues could be resolved if we took our rightful places as Queens and acted accordingly. Love cannot and will not show up until the time work and energy have been put into making ourselves as beautiful on the inside, as we do on the outside.
Weâ€™ve got to figure out what we want. Is it love if he drives a Benz? Or how about if he can whisk you off to those exotic places? It seems that we tolerate more from the brother who is financially stable, the white collar worker, if you will, than we do the blue collar worker, who may dig a ditch for a living, but has a good heart.
I read the statistics. I listen to the talk shows. There is no shortage of good Black men out here. Donâ€™t believe the hype. However, there is a shortage of sisters who know how to recognize that diamond in the rough. Everything that glitters isn't gold. There shouldnâ€™t be a price tag on love.
With your laundry list of requirements for that perspective man, can you offer those same things? Or, with the right â€œblingâ€? does that list become non-existent? Is your love for sale?
Note to self: Donâ€™t close yourself off to love, it may show up looking the opposite of what you expected. Â©2006
LaVerne N. Curtis. Ms. Curtis is a Senior Editor and Freelance Columnist, with nationally published works to include â€œLoveâ€¦According to L,â€? a monthly AOL Black Voices column; and â€œLâ€™s Motivational Minute,â€? a monthly motivational womenâ€™s column for Soul Sistas Unite.com. She has also interviewed celebrity personalities and written for Upscale Magazine.com. You can e-mail her at: email@example.com with your comments.
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